Up until now I have been mainly silent about my relational pursuits of the opposite gender, and for good reason: It is none of your business! But I have decided that since she is a part of my life I will share a slice of our relationship with you.
She is Sarah: intelligent, respectful, and God fearing. "A cut above the rest" in another's words.
In my ideology dating for sport is playing with emotions for the sake of getting high. She seems to think the same. When I asked her if she would date me she said "what do you mean by dating?" And so we are pursing a relationship with marriage as an ideal goal.
But there is a distance factor involved. We started in Dec. 2004. I started YES in Jan for a 6month commitment. A month after I returned she left for 12 months of REACH. In our first 19 months of dating, all are spent out of state, 12 are spent on different continents. A bad thing? Only if you look at it that way.
Our relationship doesn’t bear the normal emotional excitement that most have. Instead of seeing it as a bad thing we use it as a catalyst for relational growth. We use the distance and the lack of emotional distraction to help us get to know each other. We write letters about real life: the life we live being our normal self. In writing letters you scribe what is exciting and stimulating about your life. In that way we see who each other are; when the other isn't around. She knows how I spend my free time, and I know what her house mates do that annoys her.
I may sound like I'm turning a relationship into a formula, however you take it, it's my blog and I say what I want. I really haven't detached my emotions for Sarah. She is an amazing woman. Inside her heart is an wonderful commitment to God, a commitment strong enough to choose teaching school over being near her boyfriend. She tries things she is afraid of. She tells me about my faults when I don't face them. And she encourages me to do the same. In my estimation, she is amazing, and she inspires me.
5 comments:
well kevin, it sounds like this sara is a mighty fine woman and i am glad you have found her, may you have many Adventures together and push eachother toward Christ,
Shoot, wish i had an adventure buddy
fellow adventurer 29537
mmm...a delicious viewpoint on "dating"...i like it!
In response to the comment left on my site: thanks...sometimes my Americaness catches up with me. Our culture has a tendency to focus on the stuff and the size of that which we have. Bigger is better mentality. We can live with less we just choose not too. The real issues truly are those bloated bellies, dirty water, and starvation. I do think it's important though to not only help in those issues but to help people live sanitarily and get a job to support their family not to mention eat. That's really what I'm trying to get at...and anyway, I could write a book on basic human rights and my feelings and opinions about them but I'll stop before I go nuts on it:D
P.S. Sarah really is pretty cool!
you put it so nicely. I'm honored. Now that the whole world expects us to communicate openly and honestly with each other, does this mean no more asking the team to write my letters for me when I'm busy?
Cool blog! This is the greatest! I can leave comments for my self.
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